tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37096890901207234452023-11-15T09:33:09.465-08:00Notes from the NestSongbirds Musichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11497921051929185226noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3709689090120723445.post-11294033379754298002017-08-26T08:53:00.000-07:002017-08-26T08:57:57.582-07:00It's all about FAMilyMy family is everything. My husband and I are proud parents to two dancing daughters ages 6 and 11 (we just celebrated our 15th wedding anniversary). Almost every weekend we are off on a different adventure. Last weekend, we went to <a href="https://www.wonderspaces.com/" target="_blank">Wonderspaces</a> and we had the best time seeing, touching, and experiencing all the different exhibits...and being together!<br />
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As the owner of <a href="http://songbirdsmusic.com/index.htm" target="_blank">Songbirds Music</a>, I love that all of our classes require parent/caregiver participate...being together. Some days I have both parents, grandparents, aunts and cousins accompanying one child! It is a joy to see how much fun the family is having signings, dancing, and playing together and how happy their child is to have this special family time and experience. For weeks after, that family talks about how much fun they all had together in music class. </div>
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Music is a wonderful way to bring people together. I have done several musical play dates in the park, library music classes, art and music classes, and workshops. I have often thought about composing a musical morning activity or some other type of intimate family friendly music event to use music to bring families together where just like in my classes, everyone can participate in their own way.<br />
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When my friend and colleague, Juliana, owner of <a href="https://www.mypachis.com/" target="_blank">Pachis, An Art Studio for Kids</a> approached me a few months ago with the idea to create a family friendly arts event I was super excited to collaborate with her. This was it! The perfect partner with a matching dream space. And so <a href="https://www.famartmusic.com/" target="_blank">FAM </a>was created. We immediately got to work on this shared vision of families being together, experiencing art and music in a beautiful outdoor setting, and shaping a multi-sensory space where everyone can participate. I asked my own children what kids of activities they would enjoy at this type of event. Before they answered they said, "Can we come?" </div>
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So thanks to my daughters, there will be a bubble area and drums in the garden. Best of all, they will be there with me! Yes, it is going to be a very busy day of putting everything together but I am excited that thanks to <a href="http://www.scout-home.com/" target="_blank">Scout</a>, we have a beautiful space to work in, and Juliana and I can bring this vision to life on September 23rd at 9am. I still get to spend the weekend with my family in our own wonder and wander space with art and music...being together. </div>
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Songbirds Musichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11497921051929185226noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3709689090120723445.post-84496866021030310502014-12-20T13:56:00.003-08:002014-12-20T13:57:09.122-08:00The Music Class Experience
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<u><span style="font-family: Calibri;">The Music Class
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Holiday season is fast
approaching.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Stores are crowded with shoppers;
many of them shopping for their children or grandchildren ages 2 and under.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>At that age, children are just as excited
about playing with the bag or box the present came in or the sparkly bow
attached as the gift inside.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Last year,
my then 2 year old daughter took the box her present was wrapped in and she started
tapping on it like a drum. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The clothes
that came in that box no longer fit her, but that box is still in her room! She
lines up her bears and dolls, sets up her box drum and a few egg shakers and
plays music class. She says the box is one of her favorite gifts because she
can use it for music play. So to that shopper who asks, “What should I get my 1
year old for the holidays?” I vote for a music class experience! <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Experience gifts are truly a gift
that keeps on giving that you and your child can enjoy together. What is the
music class experience?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>For 10 weeks straight
you and your child can come to music class once a week for 45 minutes of uninterrupted
bonding time, musical learning, and play. During your music class experience
you will learn approximately 25 new songs, play a variety of percussive
instruments that your young child can manipulate on their own, dance for and
with your child, sing together, laugh, jam, meet new friends, learn about
musical development in children,<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>be a
part of a music making community, and share quality time together. Now how
could you fit all of that in a box? <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">The music class experience fits any
age or stage of your child’s development. It is also something you can enjoy as
a family. Parents and grandparents can attend class together. For families that
have more than one child, you can attend class all together. One class fit everyone’s
musical ability! While some children may be silent observers and others may be
completely engaged and in tune with every activity presented in class, everyone’s
learning styles and musical abilities are accepted and included. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Regardless of your musical ability, remember
that you are your child’s first teacher and your voice is your child’s favorite
voice. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">So is there a final show at this
end of this experience? No, music classes are non-performance oriented. The
experience is not about putting on a show, rather bringing the harmony home,
bonding, learning, and making joyful music together. Experiencing music and
making music a part of your daily life has immeasurable benefits too.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Here are some of the benefits of the music
making experience for your child. Music development and fostering a love for music,
language development, emotional development, physical development, cognitive
development, learning self-regulation and increasing security, and
self-confidence, <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>leadership
opportunities, and a nurturing and safe way to explore, imagine, create, and
be. One of my favorite gifts that the music class experience gives me is space
and time with my children to make beautiful musical memories that will last a
lifetime. They simply do not make gift bags big enough to stuff in all those
goodies!<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Give your child, grandchild, and
friends, the gift of making music together this holiday season! Connect with
your child and with other families in class and beyond. Experience how much fun
music making can be even with the youngest music makers. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
Songbirds Musichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11497921051929185226noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3709689090120723445.post-48701475122932041832014-12-15T21:30:00.001-08:002014-12-15T21:30:18.904-08:00See a Music Together Class in Action!<iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="270" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/fe0Ccn3P7sY" width="480"></iframe>Songbirds Musichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11497921051929185226noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3709689090120723445.post-37681485877688211662014-11-23T21:59:00.000-08:002014-11-23T21:59:32.504-08:00We Have A RunnerAlong with dancing feet, marching feet, walking feet and silly feet, running feet are often a part of our music class. Today we have a guest post from Rachel Rainbolt of <a href="http://www.sageparenting.com/" target="_blank">Sage Parenting </a> entitled "We Have a Runner." Rachel is a mom, author, parent educator, parenting coach, and M.A. family therapist. I highly recommend Rachel's classes and books). Thank you, Rachel, for your insight and wisdom.<br />
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Meet West. He is two years old. He has the hair of a Greek god with the adventurous spirit and gleaming smile to match. He converses with anyone who will listen, has deeply empathetic connections with others, is the youngest of our hearty three-boy superhero squad, is as tall as a four year old, and happens to be the runningest runner who ever lived.</div>
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He has never been restrained in a container against his will (strapped into a stroller). He has never been walked on a leash like a dog. He has never been forced to hold my hand while we cross a street (much to my mother’s chagrin).</div>
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So how do we homeschool out in the world? How do I work with him under wing? How do we survive and thrive in the social current?</div>
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Having appropriate expectations is the first hurdle in creating a life with a toddler runner that maintains everyone’s sanity and happiness. No amount of discipline will tame the adventurous spirit of your toddler (and you shouldn’t want to). Neither threats nor bribery will temper the physical drive that is aimed at scaling the Mt. Kilimanjaro of his small world. Wishing your child to be a different soul is an utter waste of your valuable energy (“All of my friend’s little ones just play quietly next to them while they sit and talk. Why can’t my child be like that?”). Attempting to will your child into a different developmental state than he is presently is laughably foolhardy. Embrace the child you birthed for exactly who he is today. Only from this place can you parent successfully. You could no more force maturity than you could force him to be taller. Know your child and set him up for success. If your expectations are not appropriate for your child, then he is not the source of the problem.</div>
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It’s all about creating approved ways for him to get that need met in public settings. What is your child’s specific need? How can you incorporate that need into not just each day, but every activity? Giving him time and space to run free to his heart’s content in nature is vital but will not eliminate the need for adventurous and vigorous exploration at every stop after the park.</div>
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If we are in a store and West wants to “run away,” he comes to me and says, “Mommy, run that way!” I say, “You want to run that way? Okay, let’s go! Then we run TOGETHER. You’ll notice I put the phrase “run away” in quotes because while that is how most describe it, they don’t actually want to run away from you, they just want to run. So don’t experience it as a rejection. They would love to have you copilot their adventure. They just don’t want a warden.</div>
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The minute he became independently mobile, it was apparent that he had a fiery passion for high-speed exploration and adventure. He would start to take off and I would put myself between him and his desired escape route, down on his level, and say, “You want to run that way? Okay, we can run TOGETHER.” Because they don’t really want to escape, they just want to run. So you have to give them a way to run and explore WITH you.</div>
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While I never strap my child down into a container against his will, we do sometimes use a stroller. My little one’s legs are small and despite loving the chase, he is simply unable to comfortably walk the distances us longer-legged folks are able to traverse. He loves exploring the world from his pouch (our Toddler Tula) but he also likes using the stroller. It’s a great place to eat some snacks on the go or play with toys he kept dropping. The key with the stroller is that it is HIS choice to sit in it or not. Whenever he wants to get out, he says, “Mommy, I get out” (so his feet don’t get run over) and I stop long enough for him to hop out and we continue on our merry way. If you force your child in a stroller against their will, they will associate that place with disempowerment and a humiliating loss of autonomy and avoid it like the plague. One note with strollers and runners is that it is much more difficult to run with your child if you have to push the stroller. It puts a big, cumbersome, hand-requiring object between you and your little runner so I only bring it along sparingly when the needs of our family of five tip the scales toward its benefit. For us, I want to say that ends up being about twice a month. Rule of thumb: If your child is <em style="box-sizing: border-box;">able</em> to get in and out of the stroller on their own, they are <em style="box-sizing: border-box;">allowed</em> to get in and out of the stroller on their own.</div>
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Since I find a way to say yes the vast majority of the time, the infrequent times I am unable to meet his need in the moment, waiting is doable for him because he TRUSTS me. He knows that if there was any way to make it safe in that moment I would.</div>
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If we are about to check out at the grocery store, I offer to run to the line together, reminding him that once we get in line, we can’t run until we get our receipt. If once in the line he wants to take off running, I would say, “I have to pay the lady for these groceries, then we can run together to the door. Do you want to help me push the buttons?” (Engaging him in what is happening.) Then I give him status updates so he knows I didn’t forget. “Now we just have to wait for the receipt, and then we can run to the door.” (Sequencing.)</div>
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Every single time we get to a door in a public place, we stop and check in with each other. This is key with a runner. It is ingrained in him that whenever he gets to a door, he stops and we check to make sure we are all together. “Here’s a door. Stop! We’re all together? Let’s go!” It should be fun and playful (not at all negative).</div>
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On curbs, we always do our safety routine there too. But it only works if you do it every time. Click here to read all about street crossing: <a href="http://www.sageparenting.com/life-on-the-street/" style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #97a08e; text-decoration: none;">http://www.sageparenting.com/life-on-the-street/</a></div>
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West has learned to navigate appropriateness and safety in public places because I explain things to him and find a way to say yes. If his desired choice is not safe, I explain why and we work together to find a safe way to get his need met. This is far more valuable than obeying commands because you won’t always be streaming orders (nor would you want to). I want to equip my children to be independently successful and buckles and commands will not accomplish that goal.</div>
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“I’m feeling nervous about you climbing so high up this very big rock. What might happen?”</div>
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“I might fall down get bonk on my head.”</div>
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“Oh, ya, that would hurt. What could we do to make it safer?”</div>
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“Okay, let’s try it. How does that feel?”</div>
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“Okay, what else could we try?”</div>
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“You stand right here, so close and catch me if I fall.”</div>
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We were at Ikea the other day and it was very busy but after a while he asked to get down from his perch on my chest in the pouch. I told him that I was concerned that it was very busy with lots of people and I know his legs like to run. I asked him what we could do to keep him safe from all the people bumping and squishing and from getting lost. He suggested he could try to stay right next to me and if it was still too dangerous, he could stand in the big part of the cart downstairs. So we ran together, we sat in chairs, we opened cupboards, and then he stood in the big part of the shopping cart.</div>
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Skip ahead a few days inside Target. It was completely empty, so he asked if he could run around the immediate area. I told him I would stand right in the middle and he could run around the area so long as we could see each other. Every few minutes I would say, “I see you!” and he would respond in kind.</div>
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One frequently used marker of freedom for us is aisles. West asks if he can run to the end of the aisle and back. If the aisle is empty I say yes but am intentional in making sure that when he gets to the end of the aisle, I am engaging with him so he is enticed to run back, as the lure of adventure at the end of the aisle is great.</div>
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Red Light, Green Light is a very good game for toddler runners to play. It helps them to practice transitioning quickly from running mode to stopping abruptly. However, a common mistake parents make is hijacking the game as a control device. “I said red light Thomas! Stop!” Like I said, it’s a game you play together that provides good practice. Its value is in utilizing it as such. Don’t cry wolf. One key feature of playing this game is that your child gets to spend just as much time as you calling the lights.</div>
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On the flip side, be careful with Hide and Seek. When you do play this game, be clear on the context that allows for safety. Hide and Seek is a great game to play at home. It can be a fun game to play outdoors but in our family, we have the rule that one grown up has to see you. Meaning, this is a game that can only be played outside the house with two grown ups – one to find and one to supervise the hiders. So West would never run off and hide in a public place because he doesn’t think that’s how Hide and Seek is played.</div>
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You’ll notice a theme of togetherness. Being connected with your child, in tune with his needs, engaged with his interest, and respecting him as an autonomous human being is what it’s all about. Get behind his eyes, see what it is he needs and find a way to meet that. “That other room might be adventurous to explore. Do you want to check it out? Let’s go TOGETHER.”</div>
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Making the conscious choice to prioritize your child above social conventions is necessary with a runner. The anxiety from the pressure to socially conform can feel overwhelming. If you have just read 10 books on the library floor with your child when her running suddenly flares, you can try, “You want to run and leave the library. Let’s put these away and run together!” But sometimes, while at such a young age, they are just not capable of giving you what you want. Perhaps you missed her earlier cues of restlessness and now she is too far-gone. Worse comes to worse, (“I can’t wait Mommy. I just have to run!”) leave the books on the floor and move on together. As she matures, she will be able to wait longer and longer. You can pay it forward by picking up and putting away books you see on the library floor the next time you visit the library with your child. It’s a good lesson for you to be able to walk away from an activity you are engrossed in before you are ready and feel a sense of completion because we expect our littles to do it all the time. The world won’t end.</div>
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Sometimes the parenting baggage of strangers is unloaded onto you and your child. It comes in the form of “That’s not safe. He is going to get hurt.” but what you should hear behind those words is, “Seeing your child’s freedom brings up feelings from my childhood that I am unable to comfortably handle.” There is a surface layer of genuine concern for your child, so if the person expresses their feelings respectfully, I temper my signature snark in favor of a teaching moment with my child. The other day I was eating lunch with West in the food court at the mall and he was climbing all over me and the booth we occupied. (At one point I did say to him, “I notice there is a person sitting here in this booth behind us so I would like you to be careful not to encroach on her space, okay?” He took note and adjusted his play.) An older woman sitting at the table next to us was repeatedly gasping and staring. I ignored her and enjoyed my lunch date with my son until she leaned over and said, “He’s going to hit his head on the corner of this table.” I turned to West and said, “This lady is afraid you are going to hit your head on the corner of this table. What do you think?” He looked at the table, looked at the lady, and said, “No, I’m okay.” I smiled at her and went back to my lunch. The lady couldn’t help but smile back at him and nervously went back to her own lunch.</div>
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This might sound intimidating. It takes more effort up front but it actually requires much less energy in the long run. Checking in with each other as you leave places is really not much effort comparatively. Think about all the energy you expend dealing with a toddler who is constantly running away. You might feel like you are losing a battle and begin isolating yourself from the public world. You avoid outings like the plague and resign yourself to house arrest until your child reaches double digits. You know what? That’s bullshit. Because the world belongs to all of us – children included. Babies can cry. Nurslings can eat. And runners can run. I have found the key to social acceptance is really happiness. If you are stressed, people are annoyed. If you and your child are happy and smiling, people around can’t help but smile and catch some of the contagious joy.</div>
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I love connecting with my Sage Parents out in the world. If you see me out and about, come say, “Hello.” Just know that it will be at high speed for the next few years. And I am completely at peace with that. Embrace the fun while it lasts. You’ll have the rest of your life to be boring and slow.</div>
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<br />Songbirds Musichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11497921051929185226noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3709689090120723445.post-58234057147787359042014-08-09T16:44:00.000-07:002014-08-09T16:44:54.284-07:00Why Lullaby?
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">When I was a little girl I did not like going to bed. It was
challenging to stop my mind from racing and calm myself down enough to fall
asleep. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>My parents would get frustrated
with my “night owl” tendency. No one was getting the rest they needed; that is,
until my parents and my grandmother started singing to me at night. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>They stopped saying, “It’s time for bed”. They
changed their tune and said, “It’s time for a quiet song. Rest your eyes” instead.
I settled into my bed and listened to those beautiful voices as they lulled me
to sleep. Musical memories are strong. I can still remember the songs they sang
and feel the calm those lullabies brought me; soft voices, warmth, love, security,
and finally a good night’s rest for everyone.<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Lullabies are more than songs you sing to your children and
grandchildren before they fall asleep. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Establishing
a ritual of a nightly lullaby is powerful. It is also a wonderful way to bring
even the busiest day to a close peacefully with love and tenderness. The
quality of your voice and your singing talents is not important. Regardless of
your musical abilities your voice is your child’s favorite and most recognizable
voice.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In addition, there have been many
studies done on how music can reduce the level of the stress hormone, cortisol,
in our bodies and the music itself has a calming distressing effect.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Lullabies can strengthen the bond between parents and
children. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Creating and nurturing that
bond cannot be over-emphasized.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Lullabies
can calm and sooth a tired or fussy child. Holding your child close and softly
singing to them can help them feel secure and relaxed enough to fall
asleep.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If you pay attention to your
child’s sleep cues (yawning, rubbing eyes, change in their energy levels etc…)
you can help them transition to a calm restful place so they can fall asleep.
Singing close to their ears and head may help filter other sounds and noises
that can otherwise distract your child from his rest time. You may notice that
lullabies may not only sooth your child but they may be calming and comforting
to you too! <o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Lullabies can expose your child to another level of speech
and language. By singing to them you are also stimulating their listening
skills and their language development. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Sometime we rock are children in our arms or
stroke their body rhythmically so when you sing to your child you are providing
a movement and rhythm experience as well. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>You can also personalize any song by singing
your child’s name. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">In our Songbirds Music classes we have a ritual of singing a
lullaby or quiet song together at the end of class. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Many of the children anticipate the start of
the quiet song and often settle into a quiet spot by lying down on the floor, cuddling
with a grownup or rocking to the music. I tell my families in class that I do
not need to hear them sing but that it is important their child hears them
sing. This is a song and a special moment for them and with them.<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Lullabies don’t cost
a thing but they can create a priceless experience for you and our child.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>By establishing this nightly routine you are strengthening
the attachment between you and your child while creating everlasting musical
memories and you get a good night’s rest out of it too!<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">I sing to my daughters (ages 3 and 8) every night.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I’ve noticed that my 3 year old rests soundly
shortly after I am done singing. Sometimes after I leave the room, she sings to
herself or her stuffed animals in bed before falling asleep.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>My eight year old and I sometime sing
together. Other nights, lullaby time turns into a spontaneous conversation with
my daughter where she feels calm and safe and she confides and shares her
thoughts with me. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I love our nightly
ritual. That’s why I lullaby. Sweet dreams.<o:p></o:p></span><br />
Songbirds Musichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11497921051929185226noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3709689090120723445.post-22056569708392309412014-01-06T21:11:00.000-08:002014-01-06T21:11:09.885-08:00Making Music Together: The Importance of Music
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Making Music Together: The Importance of Music<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">We are musical beings. Our tendency to make music is
universal and it transcends culture, language, religion, and every stage of our
lives. As early as 5 months in utero, babies can hear their mother’s heartbeat
and voice. From the time we are newborn and arguably before, playing and making
music is not only all around us, it is an integral part of us. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Cooing infants, bouncing babies, singing
lullabies, chanting songs in school, attending a celebration, driving to work,
music is everywhere!<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<o:p><span style="font-family: Calibri;"> </span></o:p><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Music utilizes and stimulates both sides of the brain. It is
a full body experience. Outwardly it engages our voice and our bodies and
inwardly it taps into our emotion and memories. We can all recall a song from our
childhood. A song can make us feel happy, sad, excited or connect us to a specific
moment in our lives.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Music is a way of
being and a way of knowing. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Extensive research
on the benefits of music has concluded that active music making supports
emotional, physical, cognitive, language, and social development. Some studies
have also connected music to higher academic achievement.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Culturally, music connects us to a community and allows
people to interact and bond with one another. Imagine singing to your child.
Think of how physically close you are when you sing. Think about how special
that moment is that you are creating together. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Singing together is a beautiful way to bond
with your little one.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Beyond that isolated
moment, it creates harmony and possibly everlasting memories.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Singing with your child also fosters the love
of making music. Only you can give your child the gift of loving music. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Singing and dancing with your child does not
cost a penny but the benefits of those experiences are priceless. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Making music with your child does not require
any kind of special skill or “talent”. Regardless of your musical ability, your
voice is your child’s favorite voice. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Through
music and musical play you encourage creativity<span style="font-size: 12pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Arial;">, personal expression, and social interaction while
</span>bringing out the joy and the benefits of creating life-long music
makers. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<o:p><span style="font-family: Calibri;"> </span></o:p><span style="font-family: Calibri;">What would an infant be able to do in a music class?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Music is a language. Although your infant
does not talk back to you of course you continue to talk and read to them.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In music class we sing to our babies. They
may not sing back for a while but before you know it they will coo and “ahh” to
end of songs, hold onto egg shakers on their own and produce sounds, tap a drum
with their curious hands and fingers, dance, and most importantly spend quality
time with their favorite person – you! They will also have the opportunity to
interact socially with other children (which means you get to make new friends
too). <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>They have many opportunities to
play, explore, and connect with you, other children, new spaces, instruments,
and with a variety of rhythms and tonalities.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>They experience and learn music through music.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Best of all, it is FUN! Now let’s make some
beautiful music together. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Songbirds Musichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11497921051929185226noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3709689090120723445.post-89199863934157250152013-04-29T15:17:00.001-07:002013-04-29T15:17:54.911-07:00Isn't it Grand! <br />
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<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">There is nothing like the love grandparents and grand friends have for their grandchildren.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>My father describes being a grandparent as “the greatest return on his investment.”<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Every week more than a dozen grandparents and grand friends come to music class ready to sing, dance, and play along with their grandchildren. Some are climbing on grandpa’s back, some are bouncing on grandma’s lap, and some are sitting and singing quietly. Sometimes the children in class connect with another child’s grandparent and an organic grand friendship (in every sense of the word) blooms.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>A couple of years ago, a little boy, age 3, not only loved coming to music class to sing and play but to enjoy his weekly visit with his grand friend, Grandpa Bobby. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>“Hello, to the grandparents, we’re so glad to see you!”<o:p></o:p></span></div><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">In many classes, grandparents, parents, and children come to class together. We’ve even had a few great-grandparents attend classes.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>One morning one of my students walked in and said, “Ms. Diana, did you know that I sing with Nana over the phone. I sent one of my CDs to my Nana in England so she could learn my special music. Our favorite song to sing together is May All Children”.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Multiple generations are sharing music together and bringing that harmony home. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></div><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">My own mom comes to music class with me at least once a week so I can still teach and enjoy having my little one in class with me. My mom often says it is the highlight of her week. It is the highlight of mine too. I could not ask for anything more than to share that time and music with two people who I care for so deeply. I know if my grandmother was still with us, she would be in class alongside us.<o:p></o:p></span></div><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Some grandparents walk to class with their grandchildren and some drive almost an hour to share their day with their grandchildren and bring them to music class. Whenever a grandparent is visiting from out of town, they make a point to come to music class to see what their little ones are doing. They often know the songs from their own childhood and many have shared their musical memories about some of the music we sing in class. “Oh, I used to sing this when I was a first grader living in a tiny town in Pennsylvania” or “this is the lullaby I used to sing to my son when he was an infant”.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The grandparents in our classes are great participants, sometimes they add beautiful harmonies to the melodies; they even have some incredible dance moves. Our grandparents come to class with smiles on their faces and with such love and openness not just for their grandchildren but for whatever music class holds. As we say goodbye every week we look forward to making music together again, and again, and again. <o:p></o:p></span></div><span style="font-family: Calibri;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Grandparents and grand friends, thank you for being a part of our musical community!<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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November brings us the holiday of Thanksgiving. This is a time to reflect on the many things we are grateful for. I will start with my nest and the 3 wonderful people who share it with me. <br />
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My 6 year old daughter, Hannah taught me about how everybody has a "body bucket". The trick with this special bucket is trying to keep it full of goodness, love, health and happy thoughts. I am so grateful that my bucket is overflowing! <br />
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My 1 year old daughter, Bela keeps us all on our toes. She is one happy little bird who reminds me to slow down, have fun, enjoy and appreciate the simple thing in life. Thank you, baby girl. <br />
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I am grateful that my two beautiful daughters need and want their mama bird. Thank you for taking such good care of me! <br />
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My wonderful, supportive, funny, and kind husband, Aron keeps our nest safe, warm, and silly. He also fills my other nest, Songbirds Music, with endless encouragement. <br />
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Almost 5 years ago, I flew the elementary school teacher's coop to start Songbirds Music. I am so thankful that I get to do what I love everyday! My families are amazing and I am so grateful to share my passion for working with children and my love for music and dance with them. Thank you, Songbirds Music families for helping me build by work nest bigger, better, stronger, and again, sillier every day. Thank you for understanding that I am a mom too.<br />
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Fly with me to one more nest...San Diego. A fabulous city, filled with so many places to visit, not to mention super family (and bird) friendly. I am so grateful to be back here living close to my family, good friends, and great weather. I am one lucky bird!<br />
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"Notes from the Nest" will be a blog where I share thoughts, ambitions, events, and curiosities from home, work, and San Diego...all nests. As I mentioned, I have been planning to do this blog for sometime. I was nervous about starting, waiting for the perfect time, worrying about what I was going to share, say, or sing. I guess my blog egg has finally hatched. <br />
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Thank you for letting me share this with you.<br />
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From my nest to yours, Happy Thanksgiving! <br />
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